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#190 | The 'Best Damn Day Of Your Life' Mentality: Upgrading Your Being Ft. 'THE Mental Toughness Coach' AKA Chris Dorris
A transformative look at how mindset impacts our day-to-day experiences. We discuss the importance of minimizing complaints and embracing positivity, aiming to empower listeners to achieve mental toughness and personal growth.
• Understanding the impact of complaining on mental health
• Strategies for self-awareness and recognizing negative thoughts
• How to replace complaints with constructive thoughts
• Shifting the perspective on failure to facilitate growth
• The concept of creating your own perfect day
• Practical exercises for strengthening mental toughness
• The role of inner work in achieving emotional clarity
• Emphasizing a commitment to positive transformation
• Encouraging daily practices for maintaining a high-vibe state
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Be committed to this. I'm going to complain less today than I would have if I hadn't watched or listened to this podcast, and I'm going to complain less tomorrow than I did today and the day after that less than tomorrow and so forth and so on. I'm going to commit to that. I'm going to get real good and what I'm going to be doing is, in order to get to have that happen, I got to pay attention. I'm on guard man. I'm standing century paying attention and watching my mouth and know that most of our complaints happen silently in our minds.
Speaker 1:99% of our complaints don't even make it out into the physical, spoken world. They're just inside of us, creating dis-es. So pay attention to them, catch them and then replace them, deconstruct failure. Okay, so, people that are all in, there's no failure in my world, bro. There's no failure in my world. There's just a shitload of attempts. And then there's results, and all the results are valuable to me. There's two categories of results. I got what I wanted or I didn't. When I get what I want, that's obvious I celebrate it and I enjoy the thing. And when I didn't, I grow. I say what's the learning in this and what can I create from this?
Speaker 2:Welcome to the Wednesday podcast, a weekly resource thoughtfully crafted to help people build and refine discipline, accomplish their goals, fortify their mindsets and be of service to somebody in this world. My name is Ryan Cass and I am your host, and it is my mission and commitment to deliver amazing episodes to you every week where you will learn from myself or a renowned expert in their field. We love helping people win in every aspect of their lives, and you can help us win by sharing the show with somebody that you believe will benefit from it, subscribing and leaving a rating and review. We believe that everybody in this world is meant to do something great with their lives and we're here to help play a role in that. Thank you for tuning in and let's win today.
Speaker 2:You know what really stresses me out. Can you guess? Nothing except my shitty thinking. There are no stressful events. That's a fact, not a twist or a view through rose colored grasses glasses. That's the view you get when you remove the glasses that you would have seen the world problematically in the first place, feeling stressed. Upgrade your thoughts. That's an excerpt from the daily dose. Start all 365 days of your year with a dose of mental toughness in 30 seconds or less, 365 days of your year, with a dose of mental toughness in 30 seconds or less. Imagine what life would look like if you could see all of the possibilities that you have for yourself and that you were able to instantly upgrade your thoughts and alleviate moments that we just mentioned there of stress that hold us back. We've got the mental toughness coach back with us on the podcast today, my brother Chris Doris. Welcome back, man.
Speaker 1:It's great to be back, brother.
Speaker 2:Is today the best damn day of your life.
Speaker 1:Why would it not be? You're damn right, it is.
Speaker 2:What makes that true and where did this concept, my decision, originate? Because I heard you recently on the eternal optimist podcast and you started off like that and it put this thought in my mind when I was running. Okay, I'm going to bring this up to start off the podcast with Chris, because how freaking cool is that? Why wouldn't today be the best day of anybody's life? And what if we woke up thinking that and creating that for ourselves? So what makes it true and where did it come from?
Speaker 1:So it's important to articulate when we talk about this, that this is fundamentally about making a declaration or a decision. It really is action on one of my favorite mantras, which is create the state, don't wait. In this case it's like create what state? Well, how about the state of feeling amazing, instead of waiting for amazing stuff to happen? So we flip it around. That's what the greatest performers in life do is they start with state. So create the state, don't wait.
Speaker 1:But I want to preface this by saying things like after a tragedy. Maybe I don't want it to be the best day of my life, Like if something tragic happened last night and some days it's not so easy. But here's the thing I haven't missed a day in five years since I started. I do not have the answer to your question how did this start? I cannot recall. I do not remember what the origin of this was. I probably just had something to do with me one morning ago, just thinking why the hell, why not have today? Why would I not do that? Let's just have today be the best damn day of my life. I probably heard somebody say like I asked them how they're doing and they're like how's it going? Like well it's going. I'm like I never want to be that way. I don't want that to be my truth. I ain't judging nobody, I just I don't want that to be my truth. So, anyway, I started doing it about five years ago, maybe even more, I don't know. I haven't missed a day in all that time. Why would I? Why would I Right? So what I do when I wake, it's on my bathroom mirror. B-d-d-o-m-l. It's written on my bathroom mirror in dry erase, real big letters. I don't really need it there because it's a habit now, but I put it there anyway. And you know, to remind myself, to make the declaration that this is the best from the get-go, that this is the best day of my life. Now I'm wearing a vibe up hoodie here today.
Speaker 1:Okay, and this is all about that too, because you know what I noticed, man, when I operate, when I show up in life with high vibes, shit goes good, man. It's like all of it, not always, but across the board. Things are generally a lot better. Like I interact with people, I you know what vibes are. Contagious, bro. One of my, uh, greatest teachers, doc alley drey, Dr Allison Arnold, taught me a mentor of mine that we're always. This is a keeper, this is a good one. I'm about to drop here. We are always either purifying or polluting the environment with our vibes.
Speaker 1:So what do you want people? It's all contagious. What do you want people catching from you? So I want people catching high vibes from me, because when they do and I ain't doing it as a favor to them it just happens to be nice for them. I'm doing it for me. I'm doing it for me, Okay, Because I get a lot of free shit. That's not why I do it, I'm just saying it's true.
Speaker 1:I also get a lot of people helping me, like you know, customer service, and the kinder I am, the more I vibe up before I get on the phone. Like UPS is having a problem with a delivery right now, as we speak this second, I just discovered it right before we got on our call delivering 300 books for a keynote I'm giving next week in Seattle and UPS is screwing up the delivery Right. So I got a call. So what do I want to do about that? Well, I want to fix it. So I got a coach.
Speaker 1:So what do I want to do about that? Well, I want to fix it Right. And I'm operating from, from the, the approach as soon as we hang up and I am not in a hurry to do that, by the way, but as soon as we hang up, because we will solve this. I'm looking at this like a puzzle. I'm going to vibe up and I'm going to get on a phone and I'm going to talk to somebody you know and I'm going to bring a vibe. I have an amazing story that you know what? This is a great story and I'll get back to the. We'll wrap up the BDD on that.
Speaker 2:I love this, by the way. I'm feeling your vibes, I'm feeling your vibes, you're bringing it, brother. Yeah, yeah, see, that's what I'm talking about man.
Speaker 1:It's like and every and every, because you know what that does Activates creative genius. Complaining is stupid. Complaining is, by definition, practicing having a problem with reality, which is a battle. You will lose 100% of the time, and it deactivates creative genius. No one's amazing in complaint. Ain't nobody amazing when they're in complaint.
Speaker 1:Okay, so vibing high is just a damn good strategy. It ain't like you know. Hey, let's go get some crystals, light the incense, incense and scream home and shit, although I do that with my meditation, but I'm just trying to be fun. This is like science. I mean, this is like legit right, you vibe up, people catch it, there's mirror neurons and all that stuff.
Speaker 1:So there was a trip I took to. I was going to San Francisco to do a talk one day and for some reason, the company Salesforce this never happened before they're flying me in and out the same day. Now that's a risky move because there's all kinds of stuff that can occur in an airport that would prevent me from getting there. Notice how I didn't say all kinds of stuff that could go wrong. Notice, I did not say that for a reason because I don't believe stuff goes wrong. Stuff just goes wrong is interpretation that we put on it. So stuff went wrong All of it, and I don't want to spoil the story, but if you go to my YouTube page, there's a video on there and I use this video as a training tool with everyone that I coach everyone. They got to study the video right and we talk it through deep because I so all that the flight ultimately, without spoiling it, the flight ultimately got, can't delayed, delayed, delayed, delayed, canceled. That was over the course of hours. Fortunately, I had the foresight to like get a really early flight in case, right, and I uh, I started to go south. This is actually kind of funny because I'm a mental coach being hired to go teach some mental toughness and I'm going dark. Sit on this plane, god damn, what am I gonna do? Right? That's kind of funny because if they saw me, they say I might say it's probably. Why don't you guys stay in phoenix? We're good, we're good.
Speaker 1:But uh, this one dude on the fight on the on the, when we had to go back to the gate and everybody had to get off the flight it was the flight crew timed out. This guy went postal Dude, was postal and right next to me, startled me and that was my reminder. I don't want to be that guy, I'm going to be opposite of that. So I vibed up. I don't want to be that guy, I'm going to be opposite of that. So I vibed up. I vibed up hard, like big time, I like legit, occupied enthusiasm. And then I got on the phone and Julie answered us. Julie, we got a game to play, we're going to win you down. And then she was like oh, this is great, I love this. So, and she helped me, I'm not going to tell you the rest.
Speaker 1:I'll say this Miracles. I'm telling you, miracles happen for the rest of the day. I will jump ahead. I'll skip the middle part of it, like the meat of the story. If you watch it on the YouTube channel, the video's entitled. We'll link it in the notes. I almost said the movie's entitled Okay, it's called how to Benefit from Enthusiasm, enthusiasm, and it's on my youtube channel, but the end of the story is, uh, this kind of does spoil some of it, but whatever, I, um, this is like a trailer, but I'm giving away too much. It's like I, uh, I got there, I get on time, use the whole content as like the major story, right, but you know of or use the story as the content for the workshop.
Speaker 1:And as I was going back to the airport I was at the airport heading back to fly home guess who I walked past in the airport?
Speaker 1:Everybody that was on the original flight.
Speaker 1:They just landed Everyone, and now there was a solution, obviously, and I found it. But I was one out of 250 people that found the solution. The solution, by the way, was out was a was obvious, it was not, it wasn't. Uh. Well, yeah, it actually was obvious. It was obvious and it was available. It was right there. There was a solution for two people. Only one person on that entire flight got it. It was me. Because I know what. Everybody else didn't get it. They weren't vibed up and so they were vibed down.
Speaker 1:They're in complaint. They're on their phones going. You wouldn't believe what happened. Honey, this sucks. They're walking, literally walking right past a solution. That's all I'm going to say about the story. I encourage everybody who's listening to create your own version. It doesn't need to be best damn day of your life. Vibe up is to create your own version. It doesn't need to be best damn day of your life, but vibe up straight away in the morning, start your day with a high vibe and see how you show up different and see how the world responds to you differently.
Speaker 2:Is that the primary construct of best damn day of my life is just that I'm going to come in here with high vibes, or is there some sort of formula or routine? And the reason why I asked that is because this makes me think of someone I had on the podcast, eric Hinman, who is a big CrossFit Games High Rocks competitor, and he talked about the concept of creating perfect days and then he said well, my perfect day is I wake up, I make the espresso, I do my ice bath. It was very routine oriented and it had a construct. Is there a construct behind best damn day of my life or no?
Speaker 1:no, that's it. So the I mean I got a morning routine too. You know where I do the things that I love that have me. It starts. It starts with um, best damn day of my life. And then there's a few other things where I write down some decisions like 10 decisions I want to create for myself, with dates on them and stuff, and I slam a big old glass of water and stuff. I'm not into that cold water, shit man. I tried that. I'm not down with the cold water. In fact, one of my morning routine elements is giving extreme great words for my water heater. I'm not even kidding, because I'm in that water, especially in the winter. I'm like, oh my God, thank you, what a luxury.
Speaker 2:And.
Speaker 1:I get into legit gratitude, not just for water, for hot water, but for water, for everything really elevate. So I don't know if it's a construct, but it's a ritual, it's a practice. It's a practice where I choose and this is really the bottom line of mental toughness training period is choosing to interpret reality in inspired ways that activate creative genius, that get me to the creation of excellence, that have me feel amazing, but also have me be amazing, because that's one of the that is the most important thing that I've ever learned in all of my research from you know, committing my whole life to the study of human peak performance is that as humans, we're at our best when we feel our best. So I mean there's just really good incentive to feel good a lot more you know. So the bot, but to really answer your question, it's just a decision man. I don't need to do anything else except stand there and decide.
Speaker 1:Now, some days it ain't easy, okay, some days it ain't easy, like when my beloved Philadelphia Eagles lost to Atlanta in game two. I went back to Philly for that game the next day. It was like a 0.1% chance of us losing late in the fourth quarter and we did so the next day I'm like man. I flew out here, I paid for tickets, I paid for tailgate, I paid for a hotel, I paid for airfare, I paid all this shit and the Eagles are going to shit the bed like that. This is how I'm waking up Now. That wasn't a tragedy, but I wasn't happy about it. But even on, even on something that might sound as trivial as that, I care.
Speaker 1:So the next morning, it wasn't easy. It was so easy to blow, it was so easy to blow that off To just say what do I need to do? What's the big? Why does today need to be the best day? It's not, it's not. It sucks. We lost. It was an unbelievable loss, but I ain't skipping it. I ain't skipping it Right. So I stand there, I go. No, it doesn't have to be that way. My brain, I don't. Now it's my. I have a brain, but I ain't my brain and I ain't liking the way it's behaving right now. Don't turn it around, damn it. If I have access to high grade state, which I do in every second of my life why why not choose that?
Speaker 2:So it's a practice of uh yeah, because my question there is going to be, if it's, if it does boil down to a choice, right, and we get to choose. If, even at the very beginning, we can choose to be stressed, we can allow that to to permeate and take over our being, or we can choose to, hey, I'm going to have this amazing conversation and be be in, I'm going to be this amazing conversation and be in powerful conversation with Chris right now, and we're going to inspire and impact some lives. Now, you mentioned there, though, yeah, that best damn day of my life. That could be easy and people may think, okay, I'm going to do that too, but the day where it gets difficult, is it really just as simple as hey, you know what? I'm not going to allow this crappy thought to win. And the way that we get there is by practicing and building that muscle, that mental muscle, every day. Or are there some other exercises that we do to be able to do that?
Speaker 1:Yeah, Well, yeah, it's right here behind me, if you're, if you can watch, if you're seeing the, the video of this, uh, it's on the whiteboard right behind me here and I'll take you through it, even if you're just listening to the audio of this, uh, interview. Uh, yes, hell, yeah, it's a practice. It is a practice. So let me just start my answer to that with my definition of mental toughness. Okay, and you're not going to find this definition anywhere else. I hope you would, but I don't think you will. It's the ability it's like a superpower that's hard-earned through a lot of inner-world work. Okay, and that's where we're going to end this comment with. What's that inner-world work you're talking about? Through all this inner-world work that permits you, then, to respond to all of life, not some of it, not most of it. All respond to this the ability to respond to all of life rapidly, with grace, mastery, enthusiasm, creative genius, so that we can get to the creation of excellent faster and with least effort. I'm going to repeat that in a more succinct way Mental toughness is the ability to respond rapidly to all of life, with grace, mastery, creative genius and enthusiasm, so that we can get to the creation of excellence faster and with least effort. So how do we do that? So what's the training look like?
Speaker 1:Before I even answer that, I'm going to say one more thing as a preface that I like to say that the most mentally tough slash happiest slash successful people, because those things are inextricably intertwined right. The most mentally tough, happiest successful people in life choose to exist in a perpetual state of self-inquiry, meaning always asking ourselves questions like how am I feeling right now? Is it serving me? What kind of mood am I thinking my way into in this moment? Did I choose it? Does it suck? Does it need an upgrade? Does it need some love? Is it helping me be badass or not? Is it having me struggle? So that's awareness.
Speaker 1:You notice the words here think, feel our circle right, because that is an instantaneous and inextricable relationship Thoughts everything you think instantaneously creates a feel, a mood. So, yeah, I you know Buddha said your whole life unfolds according to the way that you think. So it all starts with our thinking. How I think governs my feelings, and we'll do an exercise on that in a second, if you want. How I think. That's a very powerful exercise. So help me remember to do that. We call it the emotional spectrum. We'll do the emotional spectrum exercise. So how I think governs how I feel in my states, which governs how I show up or behave or act or not, which governs what goes on in my life.
Speaker 1:So what I want to do is get great at catching myself when I'm feeling poor and I ain't got time for it. There's nothing inappropriate about feeling bad. It's part of human experience. But you know what? Buddha committed his life to this. It's also unnecessary. Sadness is beautiful. Suffering, that's different. Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional and we opt for it a lot and it's stupid and we don't know we're doing it Okay. So we've got to pay attention, we've got to heighten our awareness.
Speaker 1:You see, down there the letter C-O-R Catch Own and Replace is what that stands for Catch Own and Replace. I want to catch myself when I'm in a low grade state and I don't want to be pissed off. Be amazing at being pissed, go break some shit. Don't break the law. But you know, whatever, if you want to be that way, feel it like, be a boss at it. But ask yourself have I even choosing this? Or am I letting the outer world govern my inner world? Right now, and if you don't have time for the low gray states. Then you change it right now. You catch it, you own it and it ain't happening to me. This mood ain't happening to me. Victims live in a happening to me world. I ain't being that All right and then replace it, and that's what the book of mantras is for. Right, there's 52 replacement options. But you don't need a damn book of suggestions, you can just do it on your own. Yeah, there it is.
Speaker 1:The wrote that to help people accelerate the rate at which they heighten their states. It's all we're talking about here To make it easier, easier and faster. So the practice is getting the repetitions, bro. You know reps, you work out, so you ain't going to get strong from one damn push-up. You got to get the reps. You got to get the reps, get the sets, get the workouts, repeat Same thing with the mind. Mind getting the reps of catching yourself and then upgrading your interpretation. So catch every single complaint. Scientists say we complain once every 11 seconds. I hope they're right, because that gives us every 11 seconds we've got a chance to get stronger. But you gotta catch the complaint. You gotta catch it and go. Oh yeah, I'm having a problem with life right now. Let's upgrade my interpretations. Switch it up to gratitude, change your thinking change the way you're thinking.
Speaker 2:You said something that isn't said by many, and that sadness. There's beauty in sadness, or sadness is beautiful. Thank God for sadness.
Speaker 1:It's contrast. I mean I don't know that joy would exist without, like day doesn't exist without night. It just wouldn't have a name, it would just always be light and we wouldn't call it anything like. There's not, there's not a word for when the air goes off, because it doesn't. Air is just there, so we don't have a word for any of that. But day goes away and becomes night, and it's contrast. Well, same thing with joy and sadness. I don't actually put sadness below that o line, by the way, observation line line. That's neutral, right, because all day long we're seeing life in three ways, one of three ways. This sucks, this is amazing, I don't care, right. So I like saying living above the O line. I put sadness up here above neutral, because it's beautiful. There's nothing, that's just beautiful. It's a sweet flavor of life that we get to experience, right, and it's nice. I don't want to experience a ton of it. I love steak, but I only want to eat that. But suffering, I'm not a fan of that.
Speaker 2:That's an unskillful choice. It feels like in the world we live in today, there's this misconception that if someone is, let's say, very mentally tough, or they're extremely resilient, or if they're an expert in personal development, that they'll never be sad or feel any sort of emotion. That isn't positive, even if it's only for a nanosecond, and what this is saying is that those things are welcomed. They may not be, if I'm interpreting it correctly. It's welcomed. It may not be allowed to have an extended stay, but it's completely normal to have those contrasting emotions, and what we're communicating here is that mental toughness isn't an absence and correct me if I'm wrong Mental toughness isn't an absence of anything that we may deem as bad, because you can be mentally tough and experience sadness. You can be mentally tough and experience despair. Am I following?
Speaker 1:It's normal, of course, absolutely. But I'm going to add something to that, though. There's, there's a, there's more to it than that, okay, and it's like what, what, what's possible and what are we working towards? Okay, so I'm going to tell you two stories beforehand. I'll say this, of course, by a virtue of you experiencing that emotional state. Of course it's normal and valid. It wouldn't occur otherwise. The question isn't is. The question isn't is it normal and valid? It's? Is it useful? Is it mine? Did I choose it? Do I want this?
Speaker 1:And if you want to feel misery, you are capable of having that be true for you. If you want to feel anger, you are perfectly capable of having that be true for you. If you want to feel anger, you are perfectly capable of creating that for yourself. If you want that, okay. So the real bottom line is like how do you want, how do you want to be in life, how do you want your life to be and feel? And you get to govern that. But you cannot use that governor if you don't strengthen it. All right.
Speaker 1:So here's two stories, one's about Miles Davis. You know who that is. I don't even know if Miles Davis is alive anymore. Miles Davis is arguably the greatest trumpeter ever. There's a guy named Herbie Hancock who is a super skilled jazz piano dude Badass. The story is that, miles Davis I can send you the link to this story too, or you can find it on YouTube. Search in YouTube. If you search in YouTube, herbie Hancock, miles Davis the five-minute video will show up. So here's what it is. Herbie Hancock never met Miles Davis.
Speaker 1:Miles Davis was doing a live show, summer concert, outdoors in Stuttgart, germany. He heard that Herbie Hancock was nearby. He reached out and said yo, why don't you come jam with me? And you get that invite. You're saying, yes, okay, you get with the man. You get an invite from Miles Davis to go jam. You go, so Herbie's like woo, and they're jamming right. And Herbie describes his moment like where he prayed. He played on the keyboard like the wrongest chord ever to where, like he like cringed, he's like oh god damn, no. And then he's like looking to see. He's like miles gonna like just be like why don't I invite this buffoon? And? And he looks at Miles like this, he's gone. Oh nice, all right, then Didn't see that? Let's go there.
Speaker 1:Miles Davis, because of his rehearsals, because of his, over the decades, the mastery that he developed in responding, not reacting. Responding to everything he was able to create, in Herbie's language, medicine out of poison it wasn't poison to miles, it was like oh man, that's nice, all right, then let's go there, you know, and herbie's just go on. This is why you, the man, you know that's beautiful. I love that story so much, because that's that's where we're working towards is so you can respond instantly.
Speaker 1:There's a woman I don't know if you ever heard of her. This woman, I'm always referring to her. So this book is like all here. You ever hear of Byron Katie? Well, you have now, and that's her name. It's called Byron is her first name, it's fun, it's a fun name and name and her last name is katie and everybody calls her katie. It's a little confusing, but whatever she's, she's wizard.
Speaker 1:So this is her most famous book, which is called loving what is perfect title, and she's all about the work that we're discussing right now, this inner world work, practicing, upgrading, examining your responses to life and upgrading them. That woman, she chose to eliminate fear as a response from her life, cause she just like man, I don't want, I don't, just I don't, I don't enjoy it, kind of like saying, yeah, I don't really want to do heroin, yeah, I don't, I don't want to do fear, I don't do that. So she chose to reprogram the way she responds to things that would be fear inducing and to things that would be fear-inducing, and she practices it so much that she literally succeeded in removing fear as a response in her life. And here's a story to illustrate that that's actually true and I get these stories because she didn't even tell the story. But I get it because my former coaches coached her, coached her and coached with her. So I know, I guess, some inside scoop on this wizard.
Speaker 1:So one day she does these workshops right, she's, she's old, she stopped now, but she, she used to do this like three, five, six, nine day long workshops on all this stuff, like from 8am to 5pm, just killing it, like getting in our heads and go wait, tell me what you're complaining about. Why is that a problem? Let killing it like getting in our heads, go wait what. Tell me what you're complaining about. Why is that a problem? Let's do the work and, um, they're on break one day and this dude comes up. She's out in the foyer or in a lobby or something this guy comes up to her with a gun. He puts the gun in her rib cage. He says, bitch, I'll kill you because you're screwing with all these people's minds, you're stealing their money.
Speaker 1:Her immediate auto response to that, because of the decades of work that she did, the work that we're talking about today was something like this oh sweetie, honey, I don't blame you. Oh my god, if I were believing the thoughts that you're believing, honey, I would want to shoot me too. I don't blame you one bit, sweetheart. She's calling this fool sweetheart. Everybody in her world is honey and sweetie, including the guy that just committed, you know, a terroristic threat or whatever like homicidal threat. She didn't respond with fear, she responded with empathy. She's so present and just done with that response because of her training that she was able, like like miles davis, to respond instantly how she wanted to, and she just wants to. I'm not saying that that's the way people should respond if somebody puts a gun in your chest and threatens your life. I'm not saying that that's the way you should. I'm saying that that's a story that says if you want it, if you want to be able to respond in such a situation like that, then do the work.
Speaker 2:It's an option, and you could look forward to that becoming true. Yeah, this occurs to me as a call to action that not to okay if someone puts a gun at you, that that's how you need to respond, but a call to action to explore the thoughts that you may be having that aren't serving you well, and what's the response that you would like to have, and start training yourself to do that. Discipline is a key component of this podcast and a key thing that we preach. We view discipline as the fuel to help you create the life that you ultimately desire, and discipline being the fuel that gets your habits and systems in check so that you can actually accomplish your goals. If you're looking to level up in 2025, I am happy to be a part of that and encourage you to join the Unshakable Discipline Mastermind Group. This has been my baby for a couple years and we're finally launching it here in 2025. The group consists of a self-paced course that teaches you how to form core habits and mindset that will allow you to accomplish your goals. A daily accountability channel to keep you on track, motivated and in alignment with our members, and weekly mastermind sessions where you're going to learn from either myself or a suite of renowned guests, many who have been on the podcast that are going to share pieces of their winning playbooks directly with you. I've learned that being a part of groups over the years has helped propel me to so many new levels in life.
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Speaker 1:Let's go all day, every day, Again, back to no seconds off. Man, Perpetual state of self inquiry, no seconds off. And that if day, Again, back to no seconds off. Man, Perpetual state of self-inquiry, no seconds off. And if that sounds exhausting, it's because I didn't do a good enough job of explaining what I mean by it yet, Because no seconds off is not like no seconds off doing push-ups. You can't do that. You take no seconds off of living below the O-line or in a state of dis-ease that is exhausting the higher grade state that you choose to operate from, the more invigorated you are. So it's actually energizing to take no seconds off of feeling like shit, Taking no seconds off of paying attention to when I'm feeling unnecessarily or undesirably unpleasant. So I want to get in the repetitions.
Speaker 1:You know I was planning on having a steak and a steak and red wine party one time a year or two ago and I bought all these badass steaks right and I wanted to have the party like immediately. But I had these great steaks and they were in a freezer. They might have been Omaha or might have been from a guy, it doesn't matter, they were amazing. It was like 500 bucks worth and it might have been more than that. But my refrigerator broke over the night and everything in it was spoiled. All the steaks were toast. Everything in both sides the freezer and the refrigerator was done.
Speaker 1:I walked in the kitchen in the morning and the floor was covered with water and I knew I opened up and it was just gray and dead done. I went berserk, bro. I went berserk. I was a psychopath. I was dropping F-bombs like nobody's business. The refrigerator had just been serviced. That week Guy came and fixed it because it broke. I caught it in time. Obviously he didn't do a very good job. I'm cursing him out. I'm cursing out my home warranty company for not replacing the damn fridge being cheap. I've been a customer for 20 years. What the going off for about 30 seconds? I was a psychopath in my kitchen 30 seconds until I remembered.
Speaker 2:Well, I remember what I do for a living. Remember, you remembered your vocation.
Speaker 1:That's good you got I think you got a guy for this. Oh yeah, it's you. So I remembered that I just wrote a book on all this, so I decided all right, let's use the mantras. So I went. I accessed the great neutralizer mantra. You happen to know what one that is?
Speaker 2:I don't the great ain name bad, just is ain't bad, just is that.
Speaker 1:And that's my jersey boy uh version of shakespeare that actually came from hamlet. Doesn't sound like your hamlet line? No, yeah, just like it. Very shakespearean, I think. Shakespeare, hamlet and uh said it's something like nothing good or bad happens, but thinking makes it so. And hamlet said it's something like nothing good or bad happens, but thinking makes it so. And Hamlet said that while he was in jail, because he was being, he was all bitter, the king of Denmark imprisoned him unjustly and he's thinking it sucks, it sucks. And then he thought unless it doesn't, unless it doesn't, maybe it just is. So nothing good or bad happens until we put a oh, that's awesome or oh that sucks on it Right. So I use the ain't bad, just is. And instantly I went from irate to totally neutral. I'm like that's just a bunch of meat that needs to be thrown away.
Speaker 2:Where my mind went is I've worked really hard on creating an abundance of opportunities and where my mind was going. If I'm coming down the stairs and that same thing, I'm like what an opportunity to make some amazing chicken tacos tonight, because we're going to the store, we're still going to have a great time with people coming over here and you know what? We're not going to have steak and that's.
Speaker 1:That's just is man well, and that and that's a. That's your call and I want to respond. You started this brilliantly, this interview. Thank you for doing. That was really cool. What you chose to read from the, the um, uh, the daily dose book right, what right? What was the one?
Speaker 2:Let's read it again. Let's read it again, because I did want to come back, oh yeah.
Speaker 2:Let's read it again, because I was going to ask a question if it went there. Is it really that simple to just make a choice to get rid of this thought or stress? So the opening excerpt this is from page 89. You know what really stresses me out, can you guess? Nothing except my shitty thinking. There are no stressful events. That's a fact, not a twist or a view through rose colored glasses. That's the view you get when you remove the glasses. That would have would have you see the world problematically in the first place, feeling stressed. Upgrade your thoughts yeah, so.
Speaker 1:So this isn't about. I always talk about that. This is not like looking at life through rose-colored glasses. You know, some guy at a workshop one day asked me you know, we were just talking about all this stuff. There's a like a room full of people in california. Dude stands up, I'm so glad he did. It was Dude stands up, I'm so glad he did. It was a little ballsy, I'm so glad he did this. He says, but he was kind of he's like a skeptic and he said so hold on.
Speaker 1:Like you, tell me, if I get a flat tire, I'm supposed to be happy and I'm like no, bro, that's not what I'm here to spill, trying to share with you. Is you ain't supposed to be anything, you ain't supposed to be pissed? See, listen to the way you're phrasing the question, though, even the tonality with which you're asking it. Just examine that. Be curious with me. I ain't attacking you back, I'm just examine that. The question itself is born out of the belief that it sounds ludicrous to not be angry about a flat tire. Can you examine that for a second? Is it ludicrous that that would be an option to not be pissed off? That it seems ludicrous is the level of brainwash that we're all in you just had. You're the only one in the room that has balls to say it out loud. So good for you. So we want to examine those responses right and say do I want this? Like see what the question he said? You're telling me, if I get a flat tire, am I supposed to be happy? No, you're not supposed to be anything. So you can be whatever the hell you want to be, but you're not going to be if you don't practice All day, every day, with all the little things that happen. You spill some shit on your pants, you know. Watch her react. Ah, shit. Well, do you want that one? Did you choose that one? Did you choose that one? Did you choose? You didn't choose that.
Speaker 1:Pay attention how many times you say a day I'm saying you everybody listening this sucks, oh, it sucks. Just notice how often you say oh, that sucks, this sucks, really Does it. And whenever I catch myself saying this sucks, I always add to it Unless it doesn't, it's a practice. I'm going to ask them it's the inquiry. Is that the way I want to respond? And if I want to go it sucks, I'll say yeah, as a matter of fact, it does and that's my call. That's my call. It doesn't mean it's true in reality. It, whatever the situation, doesn't suck it. Just I can have it be sucky. But when I have things be sucky I notice that I'm sucky like when I choose to interpret reality in sucky ways. I don't be amazing, so I don't think it's a good call. It just doesn't suit me. I don't recommend it either.
Speaker 2:Is this where the emotional spectrum test can come into play?
Speaker 1:You just read my mind, brother. Yeah, let me finish the part about the rose-colored glasses. We don't need glasses. See what this work is about? So here we are as new humans, experiencing life in total abundance. We don't even know what failure means yet, so it's just like. Everything's cool and exciting and possible. That's our normal. That's how we start until we're educated about our limitations, what that means.
Speaker 1:We are taught to complain and put on these distortion glasses. That has us see the world problematically Like, wow, life's amazing, holy, wow. And then we go through life and then we learn to complain this sucks. We hear people and we start imitating that negativity and now we're like, oh, wow, that's holy shit. There's problems everywhere. Look, this whole thing's about problem, so much sucks. So that's about now. Let's take that. Let's take those distortion glasses off. Experience reality as it is again, in all of its infinite splendor and beauty, so we can work with it. Work with it and create.
Speaker 1:So let's, let's go ahead and do the exercise. Yep, if you're down, you want to do it? All right, so you're going to model this for everybody, so you're the one that's going to do it. Everybody, please do the exercise with us. All right, here it is Do whatever you've got to do, ryan, inside yourself to create the emotional state, to legitimately create the emotional state of anxiety, and let me know when you're done, go all right. Okay, that was pretty quick, so you. So you succeeded. I gave you it. I invited you to do a task and you succeeded at it, okay so I thought about a notice that everybody hold on.
Speaker 1:Say notice the first words in his answer. I thought about we'll get back to this.
Speaker 2:What did you think about a troubling situation with my dad?
Speaker 1:yeah, good, so okay, there you go, so you. So you chose don't let me put words in your mouth, I'm gonna paraphrase. You say, if it's right or wrong you, in order to accomplish the task that I invited you to do, which was to create the state of anxiety, then, uh, what you did to succeed was you chose to fill your mind with thought content that would rapidly have you feel that state. Okay, thanks, you want to do another one? Yeah, so do whatever you got to do inside yourself to create the emotional experience, or the state of serenity, true peacefulness. Let me know when you're done. Go all right, you're good at this. That was. That was also very quick how did you do that?
Speaker 2:I chose to slow down my thinking, breathe and I put myself in a very relaxing place, mentally Visualized.
Speaker 1:Okay, so breath work, brilliant breath work. And you said something very profound that I don't want to get away without addressing, which is you chose to slow down your thoughts and, in the absence of thought, all there is is peace. That's the state that you don't ever have to do anything to create. We don't create peace, we just screw it up. Peace is always there. So I'm glad you said that. That's nice. Okay, that's great. Let's do two more. Okay, do whatever you got to do inside yourself to create the emotional experience of, let's say, professional incompetency, like maybe even imposter syndrome. Okay, all right, you understand what I mean, in other words, being like no good at what you do.
Speaker 2:All right, let me know when you're done, go this one's a little harder, but I've I've got a I'm happy to hear that something that I feel could potentially induce that feeling.
Speaker 1:So do it just do it silently, silently inside yourself. Let me know when you're done, alter your state. All right, yeah, did you really do it? Did you feel it? It's a shitty feeling, isn't it? But it's not. How did, how did you create?
Speaker 2:you don't have to share exactly what you think well, how did you put myself thinking about I'm about to speak. I just got invited to speak to the new york yankees about building unshakable discipline and and as I'm sitting there, about to enter the player meeting room, I'm like holy shit, why'd they pick me?
Speaker 1:Like why'd they pick me? That's so good man. See, that's nice. There you go. So now that's not the scenario. Right now You're just kicking it. Right now You're kicking it with your boy CD. You just had a cool, nice combo, but you chose to close your eyes. I noticed that because it helped you do it better. So you closed your eyes, which was helping you succeed at the task, and you chose to fill your mind. You created a scenario that could have you feel like imposter syndrome. It was perfect. So you did it. You succeed. You're three for three. You're batting a thousand, to stick with the baseball analogy. Alright, so let's keep it up one more. Do whatever you got to do inside yourself to create the emotional experience of world-class expertise. Let me know when you're done. Go all right, you know all right how'd you do that one?
Speaker 2:I thought about. I put myself in this podcast three years from now and how I'm now sitting in a studio that I've dreamed of and crafted, and I'm sitting across from the most powerful, renowned thought leaders in the world and thought through every step that it took for me to get there. By all the nights that I was up sharpening my craft, my speech, doing the extra reps, studying my previous podcast episodes, and that's what landed me in that awesome studio that I will be sitting in someday.
Speaker 1:So was that exercise difficult? No, yeah, good, let's really slow down and examine what you just did and what everybody did, whoever participated, if they were able to do it as well as well as you, were, even half as good as you just did, and it ain't hard. What you just did was I invited you to create different states and, as you notice, I went to different holes, to different ends of the emotional spectrum, which is why I call the exercise that. So we went to the dark side anxiety and you thought about stuff that would have you feel anxious. That's it. That's it. Let it be that simple.
Speaker 1:Then we went to the other end, right, and you created serenity. And then we went back to the dark end where you created incompetence, imposter syndrome, fear, and then we went back up to the high, high end again, all the way the other side, all the way down the other end, and where you felt like the best in the world. What you do and all you did to go back and forth was change your thoughts, and you did it in moments. You profoundly altered your state four times and it only took moments. You never don't have that ability. Put the other way, we all always have the ability to profoundly alter our states in a moment's time, without anything in the world being different.
Speaker 2:All we do is change our thought in a moment, and that's the power that we all possess. Yes, always. You upgraded a thought of mine, or rather a phrase that I said that maybe a few people listening say often, and I shared with you that the last time you were on this podcast, you appeared on episode number 67. Now the release of this will likely be somewhere in the in the one nineties or very close to one 90. And I expressed to you that this has been growing little by little and we're going to keep growing little by little, and you upgraded that thought pattern for me. Talk through why little by little or incremental growth is something that could stop us from experiencing infinite power and growth, and really why we shouldn't even use a saying such as yeah, I'm just getting there little by little.
Speaker 1:When you said it to me, I think what I responded was or a lot by lot, yep, yep, something like that. Right, Because I want to challenge. So I pay attention to my language and I pay attention to everyone's language, because I'm looking for the language to be illustrative of limiting beliefs, assumptions, assumptions that could be faulty, right, and I'm a big fan of rapid transformation. Like, if that's an option, I'm gonna choose that. Like, if I can get way better at something faster, I'm every time choosing that over incremental. Now, I can't make corn grow faster than it grows in nature, but I could do stuff to slow it down. Right, and we do a whole bunch of stuff to slow down our own growth.
Speaker 1:And making assumptions that sometimes like what we really want, the assumption that it's going to take a long time, challenge that shit. I mean, I operate from the assumption that what I want is available completely now, and I'm happy to be wrong, but I want to be, I want to and I'm okay with that. But I want to operate from the assumption that best case scenario is available now, that my ultimate desires are in fact, at least potentially available now, and that's the you know. It reminds me of the story that you, that you brought up, of my internship that changed my life, beautiful story.
Speaker 2:Beautiful story. Should I share that Absolutely? The story that Chris is about to share is something that we went through three years ago now the show started that, even this story that he's about to bring up had a profound impact on my life and have probably shared it to hundreds, if not thousands, of people by this point, because when we, if we put an umbrella around, you know, or some of the themes that are coming out of this conversation, is that and we just perfectly said it right there that powerful creation is available to all of us, everyone, every single person listening, every single person on this earth. It is available to all of us and it's simple actions, repeated time and time again, in which we then build this muscle that allows us to quickly upgrade our thoughts or see things that maybe the normal person wouldn't see, because we've put in the work, and this story here highlights simplicity and power, and I absolutely love it.
Speaker 1:So please, please share and it also illustrates the possibility that, like our greatest desires are sometimes in fact available now like yeah right now now, right now, so it's.
Speaker 1:So it's the second year by two-year best right now. So we're in year two, semester two of my two-year master's right now. So we're in year two, semester two of my two-year master's degree program at Arizona State University and I went to the counseling program, even though I came here to Arizona from the Philly area to come start a sports psychology practice. That was my vision. My dream was at the time that I wanted to be the mental coach for PGA Tour players. That was like the time that I wanted to be the mental coach for PGA Tour players. That was like the dream, and I was under the convinced impression that I needed my PhD to do it, because a bunch of really successful PGA Tour mental coaches told me that I needed to do that. Spoiler alert they were wrong, but anyway. So I'm in the master's program and it's time to get our internship. So the professor who's in charge of that stuff? He gives us this list. He gives all the students in class that day a list of places where, historically, the students had done internships. But it was a counseling program, so they were all mental health agencies. Now I had just left Atlantic City, new Jersey, working as a clinical social worker for four years. So I already did all that. I already did everything all that. I was leaving that to do sports psychology but I still wanted to study the mind.
Speaker 1:So we go, class is over. I'm out in the park a lot and I'm whining. I'm whining like a big ass baby victim. I'm saying out there to my friend Teresa and I'm just going I don't want any of these. This isn't why I'm here. I've already done all this bullshit.
Speaker 1:And she drops two questions that changed my damn life and have changed the lives of thousands of people, thousands of people, because I use this story all the time in talks and podcasts and every it's booked everything. You know everything, because it's like literally life altering. And she says, cd, what would perfect? Look like that's question number one. Now, my thinking was so puny in that moment, at that time, those days, that I didn't even hear what she asked. I heard something else and answered to something else. You know what? I heard her say that she didn't say. I heard her say, hey, cd, from this list of shitty options, what would suck the least? And I answered that and I go T, I don't want A's.
Speaker 1:She's like what the hell is wrong with you? She's like what's wrong with your ears? I didn't ask you that. She said I see these, snap out. I said what would be perfect? I'm like you mean like unrealistically. She's like yeah, it's kind of what perfect means. Maybe she's like what would be the best case scenario, man, I'm like okay, fine, like in a perfect world. I almost couldn't even say it because it felt so stupid. I was like I'd be the medal coach for the men's golf team here in Arizona State, which is like the best golf program in the world at the time. But I finished it by saying but what the hell would they want with a non-contributing zero like me who has none minutes of applied practice and she's just going, jesus christ, she's like you want to be a mental coach.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's the work to do, baby, and and she goes, okay, and then she drops the second question and this I'm telling you these two, this, this is an unbelievable combo, these questions. She goes, why don't you just ask? I'm like, oh, t, you're so pretty, she's my good friend so I can talk to her. I said, get out of here. I'm like, seriously, t, like you don't? I mean, it's division, the best men's program in the world and women's, the whole golf program, like it's the best that Phil just left. You know, it's like they don't even have to recruit. They get people coming from all over the world because they want to play here. It's like, why are they? And she's just standing there staring at me letting me say all this stupid shit, and she's holding her ground, holding the question, and I'm looking at her and go, oh, you, are you? You? No, no, you, you. You got a gift. You are good. And I said, holy shit to you. That's serious. This is nice to answer your question, theresa. To be completely transparent with you, I wouldn't have asked up until this point because I wasn't even considering it as a possibility, even though it was my truth. I wasn't even considering it as a possibility, even though it was my truth. I wasn't even entertaining it as a pot. I wouldn't have even God. That's amazing, teresa said. But now that you got it out of me beautifully, props to you. By the way, beers on me. If I don't ask now, it's cause I'm a coward. I ain't going to be that.
Speaker 1:So you can probably guess the rest of the story, which is I got the internship. I asked, I asked, I asked, I asked my supervisor, would that even count? He said hell, yeah, but I can't be your supervisor. You got to get the coach to say yeah, and if you get the coach to say yeah, you got to go find somebody else with a PhD who's done applied practice with golfers. Like all right. I asked the coach. Coach is like sounds like a great idea, like what I'm like, cd, get out this office before you say something stupid. The guy said yes, just get out. And because he thought it was a great idea. And then I found the supervisor, who was excited as hell, taught me all the ropes. It was incredible, it was unbelievable.
Speaker 1:Within a week I was doing my internship, my dream. It was like and it went so well, ryan, it went so well that the coach said why don't you blow off your doctoral program? I'll call you dr doris anyway, which he did. It was really funny. He always called me dr doris in front of everybody. It was very funny. And then he hired me for 10 years and all these guys go pro. It was the fastest track ever.
Speaker 1:First of all, nobody had ever done a mental toughness coaching internship with the men's golf team. Nobody had done it as an internship or as a job ever, which I couldn't believe. I couldn't believe that. And then he hired me for 10 years. And then now he talked me out of my five more years of a doctorate program which I didn't need to do, what I do, $300,000 less of student loans. And then these guys are on tour and I'm living my dream. So the point of this story is what does perfect, look like? Answer the question for yourself and then ask, follow it up with like, why don't I just ask, like, maybe it's available, maybe it ain't right now? I happen to believe that we live in a universe where, like, if you can envision something, it's got to be available in some form. I don't think the universe would be so sinister to let us fantasize about something and have there be no chance of any version of that available.
Speaker 2:That would just be bad form I think that's well, that's well put and really, if we break down even before the question and you mentioned what does perfect look like, it's just, hey, open your mind to possibilities. Open your mind to the possibilities first, because you didn't see it at first. You were looking at the damn sheet of paper. Like the hell is this man? Like I only have one through fives. Like no dude, you got six through twenty, six through a thousand.
Speaker 1:It's whatever you allow yourself to be able to see well, but but it's such a brilliant, brilliant question to think about. What does perfect look like? Not good, not great, perfect, perfect. And remember from the story like I didn't even hear that the first time she asked. We need to be interested in that, because that's true.
Speaker 1:I do an exercise that's similar, but you know it's like where I ask a question like what's the most money that you can imagine getting a hold of under any circumstance in a year's time, and everybody writes down a number and'm like can you double it? And everybody can double it. I'm like, well, then you didn't answer the question because I said the question was what's the most, not what's half the most. What's the most? And then, divided by two, is like no, what's the most? You shouldn't be able to add damn thing to it, and so it's the same thing. They didn't hear the question because it has to do with money.
Speaker 1:We have all this weird limiting shit that we learned about money, which is why you have money. Be the question and to illustrate the phenomenon that are the condition of our past has us think really puny about the things that we want the most. Now. The great news there is that we get to free our minds. Like morpheus said to neo right in the matrix, free your mind. We get to do that. I'll tell you what. That's the coolest game. I like games. I like a lot of sports, but that's my favorite game ever.
Speaker 2:If we were going to build a playbook to creation, chris, and think about a few things we're going to put in there. Would it we start with hey, free your mind, upgrade your thinking, build your muscles, build your reframing muscles. Like what are three to five things that we're throwing into this playbook?
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, one of the first. Well, one of the first. Well, one of the first ones is to start systematically eliminating complaining from your life. Seriously, it's just, it's, it's bad. Yeah, it's just bad, it's dumb, it's like it's. It makes us stupid. It's such a popular stupid habit. It's me struggling against reality. Why do we want to do that? So let's start to get rid of it. It's all learned okay. So let's unlearn that shit. Let's really make a decision to get really good at catch-starting now. Starting now.
Speaker 1:You cannot stop complaining like that. I'm open to that as a possibility. I've just never seen it happen. I've never seen a boat haul an ounce on the water and come to a complete stop instantly. It ain't the way it works. I'm open to that as a possibility. I just ain't seen it yet.
Speaker 1:Okay, be committed to this. I'm going to complain less today than I would have if I hadn't watched or listened to this podcast. I'm going to complain less tomorrow than I would have if I hadn't watched or listened to this podcast. And I'm going to complain less tomorrow than I did today and the day after that less than tomorrow, and so forth and so on. I'm going to commit to that. I'm going to get real good, and what I'm going to be doing is, in order to have that happen. I've got to pay attention. I'm on guard man. I'm standing century paying attention and watching my mouth and seeing if I.
Speaker 1:Did I just utter a complaint? Did I just go like this? You know what that is. It's a complaint. It means you have a problem with what is and know that most of our complaints happen silently in our minds. 99% of our complaints don't even make it out into the physical, spoken world. They're just inside of us, creating dis-es. So pay attention to them, catch them and then replace them. That's one. Another is what we just talked about, which is to, uh, to ask yourself well, you know, what does perfect look like? What do I want? What I really like? What would perfect look like? Let's please start with that and then follow that up with well, what action can I take immediately towards that? Can I? Is there anybody I can ask for it right now? Any action that I can do? And then a third one is to deconstruct failure.
Speaker 1:Okay, so people that are all in. There's no failure in my world, bro. There's no failure in my world. There's just a shitload of attempts. And then there's results, and all the results are valuable to me. There's two categories of results. I got what I wanted or I didn't. When I get what I want, that's obvious, I celebrate it, I enjoy the thing. And when I didn't, I get, I grow. I say what's the learning in this and what can I create from this?
Speaker 2:beautiful, absolutely beautiful. Chris, we're in a new year. You've got some cool stuff in the works. What are some things that you've got in work and what are some things we can expect from you in 2025, as we keep up with you?
Speaker 1:you know, I gotta tell you you're very gracious and you're an excellent interviewer, so props to you, brother, seriously. Um, and your chops have gotten even better than they were, and they were great when we visited in episode 65. So, uh, yeah, man, I got cloned. There's a company that reached out to me, delphi, and they said, hey, we're cloning coaches, can we use you as a beta? I'm like, yeah, why would I say no that? Yeah, anyway, I got a clone. So there's a coach clone and that's going to be a lot cheaper than coaching with me. Uh, and I said I would never release this clone, I would never, never have this clone become a product. Uh, until it could answer a question that I ask it. And the answer is, I think, better than I would give. And we have arrived at that point.
Speaker 2:It doesn't happen every time, but it has happened is the clone going to be available on your website or is this going to be hosted elsewhere? Okay, yeah.
Speaker 1:A hundred percent. Yeah, yeah, it's also going to be included. I got some new courses coming out. I spent the last two years recording videos like 150 of them more than that, actually and I just created several courses. So it's all going to be on my website. The courses are, you know, all things mental toughness. There's ones. I think it's going to be called the toolbox, because every single exercise like the one that we did, and ever all the stories, every single story that I have, right that's relevant to strengthening your mind, every document, every exercise, so it's like exhausted all my goods, like it'd be like here's my legacy. I'm going to expire soon and I'm going to leave all this stuff behind.
Speaker 2:Well, here it is. That is going to be an absolute treasure trove of information for people and I'm excited to see it Now. Customary for ending the podcast is the rapid-fire session, and we're going up three floors in an elevator to go check out your spot in mexico and look over the ocean, have a cool lunch, maybe record another podcast together. And on the way up, a person gets on the elevator and they're going up one floor. They recognize you. They've got one question to ask you the amount of time you have to answer. The question is the amount of time it takes to go up one elevator floor. This is one gem. One step, one book. So first person gets on the elevator Chris, what's one gem that you have, whether it be a quote or a mantra that you live your life by, that I can live my life by as well or put in my back pocket. Complaining is stupid. Get rid of those damn complaints. Next person gets on chris. What's one step that I can take today to build mental toughness?
Speaker 1:catch your complaints okay or get really good. Commit to for the rest of today, paying attention to when you feel shitty, even a little bit, and choose, just for practice sake, to change it as fast as you can by changing the way you're thinking, because you thought your way into that in the first place.
Speaker 2:Last one what's one book besides yours that we can read in 2025 to upgrade our mindsets or thinking or language? Loving what is by Byron Katie?
Speaker 1:yeah beautiful, it's phenomenal, chris amazing again, brother.
Speaker 2:This was phenomenal and it's my wish that at least one person listening today took the time to upgrade their thinking or be aware of thoughts that aren't serving them well and are going to take that and be more cognizant of them, moving forward and rewire them and experience the possibilities and power that we all possess. Become more mentally tough and win today. Thanks so much.
Speaker 1:You're the man, Brian. Keep doing what you're doing. Thank you you.
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