Have you ever found yourself at a crossroads, uncertain of which path leads to fulfillment and success? Join us as our guest Jamie Kullman takes us on her enlightening journey from the grips of an unfulfilling work-life and party scene to the triumph of living a life with purpose and passion. Jamie's story is a beacon of hope, illuminating the transformative power of trust in oneself and the courage to pursue dreams with unyielding fervor.
Jamie created and is living her dream life of traveling the country in a RV with her beautiful family, coaching entrepreneurs online and helping them build thriving online businesses, and serving as a coach within Rob Dial's Coaching Program.
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Have you ever found yourself at a crossroads, uncertain of which path leads to fulfillment and success? Join us as our guest Jamie Kullman takes us on her enlightening journey from the grips of an unfulfilling work-life and party scene to the triumph of living a life with purpose and passion. Jamie's story is a beacon of hope, illuminating the transformative power of trust in oneself and the courage to pursue dreams with unyielding fervor.
Jamie created and is living her dream life of traveling the country in a RV with her beautiful family, coaching entrepreneurs online and helping them build thriving online businesses, and serving as a coach within Rob Dial's Coaching Program.
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And this was not something from the 10x book, this is something that just naturally started to happen, and it was like, okay, well, what version of myself would I need to become? Who's actively living that life? So then it's connecting to the version of you that you've become. And then from there, I was like, okay, cool, so then what action would she take right now? Like, what decision would she make today that's gonna set her on the path to do that? And so that's when I started to create this action plane of how we would actually do it.
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Speaker 2:Let's connect with our guest. Eleanor Roosevelt once said that the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams, and I believe that quote is very fitting for the guest that we have on today. It's an honor to have Jamie Coleman with us, and I see her as somebody that is not only living her dream but helps others become crystal clear on their vision so that they, too, can live their dream. Jamie is the host of the Aligned with Purpose in Life and Leadership podcast and is someone that I've really gotten to know over the past year and work with, and it's an honor to have her on the other side of the microphone now. So, jamie, welcome to the show.
Speaker 1:I love that intro. Thank you so much. I'm happy to be here.
Speaker 2:Now making dreams come true. Before we dive into that, let's get to know a little bit about you at your core. What is it that lights you up the most and what is it that makes you human?
Speaker 1:Well, it makes me human. That part's easy, just the highs and the lows, but then that willpower to get through it and that resilience because of this knowingness of what I'm creating and this belief in the vision, and I feel that's what really pulls me out of those moments where I get confused and I start to question things and I mean the humaneness shows up. But, yeah, I believe it is that vision that continues to pull me forward in the most beautiful way and, yeah, just helping others do that too, and realizing that is the mission, that's the purpose of what we're creating this for. It just shows me that it's so much bigger than myself. And so these little moments that creep in here and there are that little inner critic, that inner voice. I just can't let her win.
Speaker 2:Going to extract one thing there because, as you said it, your voice amplified a bit more and that's belief in the vision, belief in your vision. Are you somebody that has always had strong belief in your vision, or is that something that you developed later on, as you've evolved and now doing what you're doing serving so many people and helping them become crystal clear on their vision?
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's a really good question. I feel the belief has evolved, the belief in the trust that comes with that has evolved and I've realized that if you're not crystal clear on the vision and fully believing that it's possible for you and that it is available to you, you're going to take action, you're going to make decisions that are out of alignment with that vision, because there's a deep rooted, limiting belief that's telling you otherwise. So that's evolved for sure.
Speaker 1:I mean, there's been times in my life where I had no vision to be honest, I didn't even know what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wasn't sure what that week would even look like, let alone the next day. And I lived quite a few lives not all lives. I lived quite a few years like that and I'm just really grateful that I kind of woke up to it when I did. Obviously, I wish it would have been sooner, but it happened exactly as it was meant to and, yeah, I'm just grateful for the experience and the journey.
Speaker 2:What I appreciate about that is that you shared that it has evolved, because I believe in our society and especially with the influence of social media, we can pull up your page and listen to your podcast and see all the things that you get to do now, jamie, and think that, hmm, she must be somebody that has always had this crystal clear vision and really gets this whole belief system, concept and man.
Speaker 2:Maybe that's not for me, or I didn't have it figured out by the time I was 25 or 30. So I might just need to stick with how things are going now. You said that you kind of came about a little later on. So if we're talking to Jamie 2.0 right now and as we got to share a little bit more in our 1.0 conversation yesterday, you mentioned that there's a Jamie 1.0 and you were kind of alluding to her just now that you didn't have it figured out. What did that person look like? Because I believe, as you share, that that will really uncover the possibilities that we all have by living through, the possibilities that you've created and are now ultimately have captured in your life.
Speaker 1:Ooh, jamie, 1.0. It's a really interesting question. Yeah, well, I don't go back there much, if I'm being honest, but I actually did recently because I just had a birthday and I connected to the decade prior and really reflected on who was that version of me, who was that 1.0? And then who is the 3.0, right, the version of myself that I'm being called to step into in this next decade. And what's wild about it is, oh my gosh, shoot.
Speaker 1:Okay, let's just say this alcohol was heavily involved. Okay, it went from just normal party stuff. You know, I went through 20 something fake IDs to give you an idea of how crazy I'm talking. Okay, somehow they would always disappear, like I would just wake up and they were just gone and I don't know how I always was able to get another one, but I was, which now I wish that wouldn't have been available to me, but it was, oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:So it started with just normal partying, you know, like you would imagine, as a 20 something. And then, you know, my friends were all in college, so it was kind of normal. I wasn't in college, I wasn't in college, and so what happened was then I got into more of, not the house party scene, but more the bar scene. And when you're in the bar scene, that's later 20 somethings, early 30 somethings, and that's what they do every day. And so then it became this rather than going out every Friday with your friends as a college kid it was no we're going out six nights a week and we're happy hour hopping and we're closing the thing down until 6 am. Sometimes we'd go out till 6 am and then the next day I'd sleep until 3 pm, wake up, go to happy hour and I'd be out again till the bar's closed, every night, literally, or if I stayed home and have two bottles of wine. So it was like an actual, real problem.
Speaker 1:And I didn't realize how deep I was in that until I just started to wake up to the fact that I was feeling like shit all the time I would go into work Excuse me, right around that time I was starting to work out at car dealership and I was working, oh my gosh, like 12, multiple 12-hour shifts throughout the week, like I was just slaving my life away, to be honest, and I think it was at the point where I started getting really sick. During the day I would be in the bathroom like honestly vomiting, like so sick, and it was like my body's way of being, like you are like killing yourself from the inside out, like you need to pay attention to what's happening in your body right now. And I think that was one of the biggest wake-up calls and, if I look back at that moment, kind of like that point of no return right started to really shift things. I had gone through a really horrible abuse of relationship and I started running. I started putting my anger towards running and I'm like you're going to love this because you're like the number one runner that I've ever met. I started running and I took my anger out on that and that gave me the space and it gave me the motivation to then start going to the gym, which in the gym, I did the same thing I'd be running, I'd be working out, I'd be finally focusing on me. And that's when I started shifting from booze to starting to implement things like workout shakes and like pre-workout. You know what I mean. And so that was a huge like catapult in the right direction that I needed in that time. But that's a bit of a glimpse at one point now.
Speaker 1:But one other thing to kind of wrap that up was. I, as I said, was working 12-hour days. I was working way more than a full-time job. I was making great money as a 21, 22 year old. But I had just bought this brand new, cheap, regular Rubicon, gorgeous like all white, beautiful, and I could see it outside the car dealership window. It's an aftermarket manager there, and I just remember the seasons changing outside that window and all I wanted to do was just take it on a road trip off-roading in Colorado, and I couldn't do it because I couldn't get any time off work, I mean no more than like a day and a half off at a time. And so, yeah, I guess from there I started looking at what the heck can I do? Should I go back to school? Should I get my real estate license? It was just this confusion, but, knowing this, that I had to figure out a different way. That started the Jamie 2.0.
Speaker 2:So you're at this point where alcohol is your maybe what feels like a friend, but really it's your nemesis.
Speaker 2:In the midst of that, you are working, a job that brings you no fulfillment.
Speaker 2:And now I'm also curious when you start making these lifestyle changes, and I love that.
Speaker 2:You discovered running, and I think that running is so meditative and can help clear a lot of things up and escape a lot of things, and I also use that as an outlet, at first to really run from everything that was going on at home with my parents, and every mile that I ran was a what felt like a mile further away from the problem, in a mile closer towards this dream that I had. And when you start to sway off the path that a lot of people are used to you being on, especially in the party scene or what we can call quote the cool scene, we'll say that's what you were on. As you start deviating from that, what are things that are going on in your environment? Are people attempting to pull you back in? What are some of the byproducts of you starting to discover this new version of yourself and maybe being tempted by people that are also in that world, that don't want you to leave, and maybe because it's their shielding their insecurities in those moments.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, definitely. I had one girlfriend specifically. She would just show up at my house, pull me out of bed because I was still sleeping, pull me out of bed, get me dressed and basically get me out the door to go back with her. So I think a lot of it was removing myself from those situations. It started with actually physically moving my location. I was living in the party scene area very close to where we would go out, so my house was like the pregame house. So I moved about 30 minutes west where nobody really goes out anymore. So that helped and so that helped to break up with those patterns and remove myself from the place people would want to go on their way out Really helped change my environment. And then after that I actually met Steve.
Speaker 1:Right around this time actually, somehow I met Steve, which get this, somebody actually knew. He started to talk to me and she cautioned him not to pursue a relationship with me because I was a party girl, which is wild Because we've been together now for like eight years yeah, crazy. So the in the midst of all of this I met Steve and as soon as I started to really like him I had just moved in like this gorgeous home out west just beautiful. I started to really like him, went into my job, quit my job and said I'm moving to Florida. I got to get away from this guy. I can't do this again. So I moved down to Florida and, yeah, like party, that stuff still continued.
Speaker 1:But what that did really really well was just like really shut down those other relationships that I cultivated. That was a huge part of it. When you're around people that are in the same habits and routines and you feel like they're your only people, it's really easy to get sucked back into that. Yeah, shortly after he came down to Florida I think it was two weeks I was down there he came down to Florida. We were there for two weeks together and I actually flew home back to Nebraska with him where the two of us actually moved in together and then the rest was history there. But that helped too was finding my person who enjoyed the party. We partied together for a while, but every couple of weekends. It was nothing like what we were doing before, and so I think just having the other person who cared about other things and that we could kind of start to create these better habits together, that was helpful. It was kind of like an accountability partner, although I didn't know what that meant back then.
Speaker 2:Look at the love story that has evolved from the guy that was told to stay away from this woman, and here you guys are now, and you guys have both created this beautiful life where you're living in Sedona, arizona. Now you traveling in RV, you've got an incredible podcast, you're one of Rob Diles' coaches and for folks that don't know Rob Diles, it's one of the most renowned experts in this domain of personal development and you've created this dream, and part of that is just by becoming crystal clear on your vision. So for people that are in this new year and they're thinking, man, 2024 is the year that I make my dreams a reality. 2024 is going to be the best year of my life, the most transformative. How do we become crystal clear on our vision? And or even, what does somebody who is great with understanding their vision what do they look like, what do they do Walk us through that?
Speaker 1:Oh, I love that you brought the new year into this so much, because, okay, here's what happened. All of this would have been 2021, 2022. I would journal my vision every day. This was when I was really starting to read books like 10X by Grant Cardone, where he's like you've got to think in levels of 10X of what you think is possible for you and you've got to connect to that vision at least twice a day Once when you wake up, once when you go to bed. So it's like, okay, I'm going to start to do that. And so what happened is I started we had this. So we were living in Colorado Springs for a year. When we were there, we created this dojo space in our home. That was like a meditation room, yoga. It was a vibe with like crystals all over the place, and so I gave myself this space where I could go every morning to connect with this vision and to do this morning routine. So I would journal exactly what I wanted every single day, which gave me crystal clarity.
Speaker 1:But then one thing started to happen. After time and time of doing this, I started to get mad, like actually angry. So I was like I've been writing the same vision down for so long and I don't feel any closer to it, Make sure my business was growing. But I was still in these four walls, like the golden handcuffs in my opinion, which was like the house that can't move and Steve's at a job, I'm working hours and hours and hours per day, Our kids in childcare. It just didn't feel like the reality that I wanted to be living, and so I got mad.
Speaker 1:And then what was interesting was we were coming up on the new year, so we signed a one year lease at this house. By the way, we're coming up on our one year where we could either re-sign and stay or we'd have to put in our notice and find a new place Sat down. I was like you know what? We've got to make a change. We've got to figure out what this next chapter is calling us into, because prior to living in that house for a year, we were traveling for like six like nonstop, right.
Speaker 1:And this was wild because I was like let's just put our notice in and we thought we were going to have like a month after that, 30 days. We had less than that. We lost like a week. So let's say I thought we were going to have to be out by December or, I'm sorry, no, I thought I was going to be have to be out by January 14th, so that would have given us 44 days roughly.
Speaker 1:Well, after I put our notice in, she said okay, great, you've got to be out by like December 28th. And we were like, oh my God, we just lost two weeks what. That's like crucial time when you're making a huge change. So I said, okay, we had exactly 30 days. I'm like we've got 30 days. We're going to build this to be the dream business and the dream life that I've been writing down in my journal, and we've got 30 days to do it. So I didn't go and give us like years and years and years. It drives me crazy. When you talk to someone, they're like yeah, I really want to do this thing, and then they wait many years to do it.
Speaker 2:It's like do it.
Speaker 1:So that was wild. So we give ourselves 30 days. It's crazy.
Speaker 2:Hold on so 30 days and your journaling walk us through. I can only envision what you're journaling. And are you at this point now? Are you writing the thing a hundred times more to speed up the process? Or you know like what are these journal entries looking like? Because I think that's also what can paint a picture for somebody that's thinking okay, jamie started journaling, got inspired by Grant Cardone and the 10X mindset, and then you are met with this deadline that has been accelerated. Therefore, you accelerate the action that you're taking and it leads to this amazing result.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, the journal. Yeah, that's an interesting question because something naturally starts to happen when you're journaling and connecting to the vision. And this was not something from the 10x book, this is something that just naturally started to happen and it was like, okay, well, what version of myself would I need to become who's actively living that life? So then it's connecting to the version of you that you've become. And then from there I was like, okay, cool, so then what action would she take right now? Like what, what decision would she make today? That's going to set her on the path to do that. And so that's when I started to create this action plan of how we would actually do it, and step one was putting in our notice. It's like, okay, we got to burn the boats. If we don't put it in our notice, we have no like urgency, we have no end date. I was like, okay, so we're going to do that first, second off, we've got to find our home. Like, let's do that next, we got to find the RV. And so now these days are probably wrong, but let's just say on like a Tuesday, we made the decision to do this. By Friday, we were in Denver looking at RVs. By Saturday we had picked one out and we're like moving forward with the deal. So it all started to happen within the first week, that next week. This is what's wild when you get clear and you burn the boats like that.
Speaker 1:Next week my dad called me and he's like hey, jamie, I'm actually thinking about driving to Colorado to come see you guys. It was like Christmas time, right. Like you know what that sounds really awesome. I would love. I would love if you could do that. I'm actually curious, though.
Speaker 1:I had a lot of dealership connections in Nebraska for vehicles, because that's where I worked at a car dealership, right. I'm like if we bought a truck, could you just drive that here and then drive our vehicle home with you? He's like okay, yeah, I mean, I don't see why I can't do that. So I'm getting on the phone. I call that we got a family friend. He's like one of the head guys at this Mercedes dealership, the GM. He's like I've got one truck on my lot. It's a 3,500, meaning it could pull the rig. It's a Mercedes dealership. They don't even sell trucks. And we wrote up the deal and like two days later my dad was driving it down to us in Colorado. So within two weeks we had the rig and we had the truck, and now it was just starting to get rid of all our stuff and make this happen after that. So everything else was easier. Right, that was like the hardest stuff to figure out.
Speaker 2:So the vision or what you're doing right now? You're recording from an RV that you could move anywhere today, yeah, and you're creating these amazing conversations. You're helping people also become crystal clear on that vision. If we looked at the journal entries and this process, are you living your ultimate vision right now to where it's? I have an RV that I'm in Sedona and I've got this podcast and I help other people launch their podcasts and build their online businesses. Is there anything else that hasn't been checked off of that vision?
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, and the vision is constantly evolving and changing and the reality is like when I had originally wanted to do RV life, it was moving it all the time. That was the vision, but here's how it shifts and changes too. This is the cool part. There's definitely a lesson in here. I wanted to be traveling. We were going to go up the entire West Coast and kind of like weave up and then go through Canada and even to Alaska, like that was the original plan, and we're driving this brand new RV that we have no idea how to drive. We get to Arizona and, granted, our first night in the rig was New Year's Eve, so we quite literally started our brand new life on the first of the year, which was really cool. I'll never forget that and we had nowhere to sleep because I had planned everything else, but I hadn't planned where we're going to actually park it. That was not the best planning. I'm not, yeah.
Speaker 1:So we spent three months, the first three months in the RV, like bouncing around to places that we ultimately didn't really want to be. If I'm being honest, we were near Sedona, but we weren't in it. We were just kind of on the outskirts, having to drive the rig somewhere new every two weeks, just to be in the vicinity of Sedona, because I hadn't planned it properly. And so that was the nightmare. We had a lot of things breaking. We didn't know what we were doing. I mean, we ripped the slide off. We just today got our bedroom slide fixed. Finally. It was crazy, it was kind of a nightmare, to be honest. But people said we couldn't get a spot in Sedona. It didn't exist. They were like you literally can't get a spot in Sedona. It's like illegal to park your rig there. I put it up in a Facebook group and they found us, and so now that we have this place, this is the dream, although I thought it was one thing. But it ended up being something different, and that's okay too.
Speaker 2:So what I heard there is that the vision isn't something that is necessarily fixed. It can have variables and it can have some variability, because what we may envision as the vision for, let's say, 2024 or even in the 2025, may be slightly different, but I wouldn't say it's vastly different from what you originally wrote down and dreamed up and ultimately have now. So for folks that want to become clear on their vision this year, what's a good starting point? I love the avatar exercise that you've put people through and you also mentioned and your podcasts. So where do we start to become a captain, master of our vision?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I would say that first step is clarity of what the vision could look like and just who is that version of you who's actively living it and doing things to actually believe that right, meditating, journaling, using mullabies and basically, as Steve likes to call it, brainwashing yourself, basically brainwashing yourself. And, yeah, then, taking one action, one action that's in alignment with that goal and the biggest one for a lot of people. They already know what it is. We've spoken before and you know what yours is and you're doing things that are in alignment with you. Taking that action step, which is a great first step, and then, at one point, you're going to do the action and then this whole new chapter of life is going to open up for you. So, I mean, you're doing it right now and I love that you've put reminders in place for you to where you won't let yourself forget it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, I agree with you, and did you the first time that you started writing it down? And looking at the journal entries it makes me think back to when I started writing this down. But then you mentioned something very important coupling it with action. Because you can write and dream and close your eyes and envision all day long, which is great because you can get cleared. But if you don't take action, you're going to end up with your eyes still closed and you're dreaming and wishing and hoping and going nowhere. But I'm curious with the first time you wrote this down and looked at it, did you wholeheartedly believe it right then and there? Or did it take some time? Or maybe, as you coupled that with the actions, and you're like oh, you know what like this is possible, or was it like that from day one?
Speaker 1:No, it wasn't like that from day one, but a huge turning point was when I actually went to Funnel Hacking Live, and that was the very first time and I had been an entrepreneur since I was 15 and that was in 2019 or 2020 and I remember I went to that Funnel Hacking Live. It was 2020 because I remember the journal says it on it, I have it over here. It was 2020, I went to Funnel Hacking Live and that was the first time that I had ever been in a room of other entrepreneurs and heard their stories. I had never listened to podcasts before that. I had never watched really YouTube not really. That was it.
Speaker 1:And so I was at Funnel Hacking Live and finally, for the first time, started to hear the other entrepreneur stories of how they did it and was in an environment where I was like, oh my God, people actually understand me. I'm not the only crazy one in the world. There's other people with visions and missions on their heart and they're actually going after it every day. And that was like the roof just got blown off for me. I was like this is the coolest thing in the world, and then I became obsessed.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I know that. You know. It's interesting that you say that I was flipping through who, not how by Dan Sullivan this morning, just because that's you see behind me. That's one of my favorite books of all time and I have that thing highlighted, bookmarked. You name it and I'm flipping through, flipping through, and as you said that and then as I was asking the question, I was thinking you know, I believed and I believe everything that I write down. But another thing that makes me more solidified in that belief and as what I just heard you say, is being around other people that either have something very similar or they've done it or they're doing it. And the more James of the world that I meet, the more people that now I've got this amazing network of people that they're doing the thing or they've done it into massive scale. And then you go back to their origin stories, even hearing yours.
Speaker 2:Whatever you want in life is there for the taking. There's no prerequisite to success. There's no prerequisite in like. You didn't go and get this prestigious four year degree and get into this amazing corporate role. To start off, you were struggling for a bit, but then you've. The theme really here is like you started investing heavily in yourself and not looking back, and it's just such a beautiful thing. It's such a beautiful thing that you've done and I really think that you're doing an amazing job here just showing others. Okay, you get crystal clear in the vision, you take action. You find other people that are doing the thing or have done the thing or want to do the thing that you want to do. What else am I missing here? What else would you add? Getting me excited? I know.
Speaker 1:Actually, I think, okay, we've put like so deep in the story, so I'll just keep it going, because that next step was finding mentors to support that journey. I think one of the first courses I invested in it was Tony Robbins, and Dean Graziosis, which was pulling out my card to pay like $9.97 for something was so scary Because before that I maybe spent like $25 on an ebook. I had just spent money on a seminar. That was wild, and so then I spent $1,000 on their program and then I spent $1,000 on another program, then $3,000 on the next, then $15,000 on a mentor for a day, and it just kept like I just kept investing in myself because I realized, look, I could have spent all this money to get a degree and to go to college, and I tried that for a little bit, but I was like I'd rather go to the person who's doing what I want to be doing, and he was actively.
Speaker 1:They embody the values that I care about for freedom of time and freedom of money and they're doing that Like I'm just gonna pay them and I'm gonna learn how they're doing it, and that really changed so much. And so I'm sure there's somebody listening who maybe they haven't taken that step before, or maybe they've thought about it, but then they've got a little bit scared, like a lot of times it's hard to see the picture when you're in it and when you're able to have someone facilitate that transformation with you because they've gone through it, that's how you're gonna condense. I believe Tony Robbins actually said this in that program turn decades into days. So that's how you can start to like instead of that transformation up until then took years I mean like five or 60 years just to get there to the point where I was even realizing, oh my gosh, I do have a purpose. That took so long. And then after that, just like everything condensed because I was getting help at that point.
Speaker 2:What's your simple advice? To get someone to separate themselves from the transaction so they can experience the transformation. Because you mentioned spending 997. A lot of people will hear the 997 number and automatically shut down and think, wow, would I pay $1,000 to hear someone talk or to buy a course? And I remember too. I started really investing heavily these last couple of years and the first time I made a big transaction it scared the living hell out of me because I looked at the transaction but not the transformation. How do you get people to separate themselves from that?
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, that's why I honestly love sales so much. Now, which Jamie 1.0 would have.
Speaker 1:She didn't have any idea how to do that or what it even meant really I wish I would have right and the sales, the dealership wow, I would have crushed it. But it's because you get this beautiful opportunity to find where someone's been blocked or holding themselves back and that comes up in the objections. Right, they're gonna talk about money, they're gonna talk about their spouse, or timing, or value, and it's like in that moment you get to figure out like has this person been held back from investing in themselves because they're worried about their spouse, is gonna think Because their spouse has controlled their decisions for the past decade. Like you get to in that moment, see what's been preventing them from moving forward and experiencing success and like I love that from the coach's perspective. But then the other perspective not looking at as a transaction but looking at it as a transformation is just realizing like your current knowledge and expertise got you to where you are today and if you wanna get there, you've gotta change. Like you've gotta change the way you're showing up and the way that you're taking action, and just so much about you has to shift. And it's just difficult sometimes to coach yourself and do it for yourself.
Speaker 1:And so, yeah, like that's just that moment of transformation. And what's funny is like I've spent anywhere. Gosh, I've spent. If we're looking at the money side, then you start spending what $8,000 reoccurring every single month on yourself and it's like whoa. And why do you do that? Because when you're investing like that in yourself, it's like first off, you see the results, but you start showing up a bit differently because you're so invested in this thing that almost is a driver for you needing to transform. So you're like I better get my money's worth Because, yeah, you've gotta change at that point.
Speaker 2:On my now weekly email newsletter that I have going out. I've been putting reflection questions for people. It's just one of the sections on there, and one of the ones that I included yesterday was what is not taking action on? Whatever it is that you want to be taking action on, what is the cost of what's that costing you? Because there's so many people that have a million dollar business inside of them, have a top performing podcast inside of them right now, but aren't taking action for many reasons aforementioned by you, or for many other reasons that are likely just some thought in their head that isn't really a thought or not real, and that is what is stopping people from their best selves and from the things that can create abundance financially, personally, with their families, you name it. I like to pose that one as well. What is this? What's the cost of inaction?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I love that. It's the urgent right. You're highlighting the urgency for them to make a change, and if there's no urgency, there's no reason for them to do it now, because a lot of times, it's something they've been putting off for years, if not decades, and so we've got to create urgency once again. Going back to sales, like that's exactly what you're doing, as you're really just showing them hey, you've got this wound here, this wound that's open and it's gonna stay open until you like deal with it, and you're just showing them like look, this has been something that's been hurting you for 20 years.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And what would life be like if it was better? Okay, how would that affect your energy? How would you show up different for your family? How would you show up better for your kids and your job and your work right? And it's really just painting this picture of what life could be like, but not just stopping there. It's like what happens if nothing changes. Like what happens if you get to the end of your life and you're looking back and you realize like, holy, should I missed it. Like I had this opportunity, I had this chance, I had this dream, this calling, but something kept me small and so I let that thing keep me small for the next 50 years. Yeah, like you got to. Let the fear of staying where you are be worse than the fear that's holding you back from taking action towards the thing you want.
Speaker 2:Hmm, that's powerful and that, as you're saying, that one of my solos that I'm getting ready to release is about the one person in life that I never wanna meet. And the person that I never wanna meet in my life is the person I could have become. And it's going back to who, not how. I believe that's why I first saw it. It says the definition of hell is you go through life and maybe you have your family, and not to say you don't have a good life, but you go through life and maybe you work through corporate, have a few leadership roles, but that whole time you've been thinking about man, how cool it had been to launch my own business and podcast and take action on this idea that I've just been sitting on. And you get to the end of your life and, depending on what you believe in, you're about to have the gates of heaven opened for you. But right before that, the big man introduces you to hey, jamie, I want you to meet this person that was inside of you the whole time. Yeah, I can't imagine that and it's wild, yeah.
Speaker 2:And the other thing is that I believe some folks may believe that people like you have just created this linear path and there's really no such thing as a linear path. So as you've gone through this entrepreneurship journey, jamie, I understand that it's like a roller coaster, and one thing that's really important, regardless of if you're on the entrepreneurship journey or not, but one thing that'll keep you moving closer towards your vision is your relationship with obstacles and setbacks and limiting voices in your mind. So as you approach those whether it's an obstacle, whether it's that not as many people are signing up for your course or you have some that devil on your shoulder that's keeping you small from that 10x thought that you're having what relationship have you built with these things in order to continue moving forward and staying as closely aligned to your vision as possible?
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's an interesting question because once again, it goes back to like you think. You know I've thought that I was aligned with purpose and so I got to bring in the name of podcast, of course, and then I realized, oh my gosh, I wasn't Like even moving to Sedona, my own business, like basically burnt to the ground, which is wild, like more than just that everything just like disappeared overnight. And Sedona is a very spiritual place. It's known to do things like this, so I knew what I was signing up for. But then what's interesting is I was in this breath work and what happened was like I was able to see and like picture everything burning to the ground and all there was was ash. But then this phoenix shot up from the ashes and just like embraced the world. It was, it was really beautiful, and so I just feel it's it's holding trust of the vision, but being unattached of how you're going to get there, because what I feel burnt to the ground, so to speak, if we're going to ride with that was the how I was doing it before, being out of alignment with the how that it should be, and I feel like that's what stops a lot of people, is they're hung up on the how, and you shouldn't be, because a lot of times we don't, like we need to be guided to finding that and figuring that out and integrating that. So that's part of it, for sure, and the other part is just realizing that fear doesn't exist. It doesn't exist Like. Like we can't overcome something that doesn't exist. And so if that little voices that are head and we're fearful of different things which are causing us to be in inaction Rob Dial talks about this all the time.
Speaker 1:It's in his book Level Up. I know you mentioned that you have that, so you'll you'll read about that soon. But it's like we're letting this thing that doesn't exist really hold us back from everything that that we desire in our life. Like we're only born with what? Two fears. It's like the fear of loud noises and the fear of falling, and so that means all of the other fears that we've ever had in our life have been learned or experienced, and so we've learned to be afraid of failing. We've been. We've learned to be afraid of judgment or success. Like these are all learned behaviors but in reality they're not fears that are actually real. They're not going to, they're not going to kill us.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:And so why are we afraid of this thing that we really shouldn't be afraid of? So how can we, how can we start to look at the the fear, as something that's more exciting, right, instead, and how can we use that to our advantage? So that's why I love entrepreneurship. I think, more than anything else, why I've become obsessed with it is because it's one of the best ways to see your level of personal development and your personal growth, because your business growth is a mirror to that. It's going to show you all the ways that you're still not free.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I love what you said there and that's interesting that we're born with those two fears. But I had a discussion with one of my mentors who is a high performance coach and he brought up this powerful thought that and really, as I even say, thought, this powerful notion, rather that your thoughts, our thoughts, but your thoughts are not your thoughts meaning that we create so much noise in our brains that we can. We can create so many false realities, and I'll offer to what you said that maybe, when you do have the devil on your shoulder, ask yourself in that moment, what is it that makes this thought true? Because oftentimes, let's say, you want to launch the podcast, ah, no one's going to tune in, people aren't going to skip scribe. What makes that true?
Speaker 2:I bet you can't find a reason because you just made that up, so, taking a step back as well, but I love that you also offered that you find excitement from it and flip the script on it a little bit. I was definitely doing my homework and listening to some of your solos from the archives and you brought up the quote from Gabby Bernstein and I figure it's fitting because of what you just mentioned with turning this, these beliefs, into something exciting and flipping the script on it. She said if your level of success is correlated to the amount of fun you're having in life, how successful are you? So how do you talk through, how you incorporate fun and really make this whole thing a game for you? I love that quote.
Speaker 1:Wow, yeah, oh, that's really cool. That's something I've been really connecting to since we started RV life was that it gets to be fun. I feel sometimes you know the things that we do, especially as entrepreneurs, in personal development. They're not really that sexy. You can definitely make them not fun, let's be honest, but it gets to be fun and it's not just like sometimes, okay, if someone's listening to us, they're like, oh, you've got to make your whole entire life fun. But I want you to look at the micro moments, for example.
Speaker 1:Okay, so we're in this level up 30 challenge, where we've got this list of things that we can or cannot do each day. One of them is no alcohol, by the way. So this is actually the first time in my life that I'm going on a team. It's the first time in my life, actually, that I'm on day 24 of just intentionally not having any alcohol at all, which is super cool. I would just have like a glass of wine or a beer every couple of weeks before, but it just feels really good not to at all. Feels like nice, anyways.
Speaker 1:So one of those things is to do something that scares you each day, and so today, me and Kylo I always, like, before I host a group session, I get the music going and I get everybody fired up and I open the room five minutes early so people can listen and kind of just like get pumped up. And this time, actually, me and Kylo were dancing right here behind me in the living room to the music. It's like you know what, I'm just going to turn the camera on and we're just going to keep doing our thing and just dancing, like sure we could listen to music and just kind of like bob our heads or whatever. But I was like no, my three year old wants to dance with me, let's freaking go. So we were just dancing and we made it fun.
Speaker 1:And then other people did too, because they had their cameras on and they started like go into the beat a little bit more, right? So it's micro moments like that that you can make fun that are the most important, in my opinion. To make fun or like, if you like, we've got a apples. Okay, like apple trees that grow there unfortunately all gone, which makes me so sad but we would go on a walk every morning when the apples were harvesting and we'd get an apple on the way and go on a hike every morning Like that's fun for me.
Speaker 2:I love my definition, I love the micro moments and that they're constantly incorporated, and it doesn't always have to be this grandiose thing. It's sometimes it's the simplest and the small things that have the greatest impact, and that goes for a lot of things in life. And, jamie, just as we look at the zooming out from the conversation and the journey we've taken, we've seen that transformation is possible in anyone, as we've seen that with you. We've seen that, with a crystal clear vision coupled with action and having the right people on your corner, that you can accelerate your progress to live your dream and be your dream. To allude to the fact that this is a process of becoming All the way to now, how do we master our minds? And the last thing I want to pair this with is the podcast aligned with purpose. But really, what does it mean to be aligned with purpose in life? What does a person that is in alignment with their purpose? What does that person do?
Speaker 1:What does that person do? I always ask? I always ask guests this question. I've never been asked it back here you go.
Speaker 1:That's every guest I bring on. I asked this. That's so wild, okay, wow, cool. What does that mean for me?
Speaker 1:It's this whole conversation embodied in every human's life, like I believe that I believe every human was put on this earth for a reason, and there's a lot of bad things that happen in this world. There are, but I believe that if someone would just get clarity on the life they really want to be living and how that would feel and they strive to become the version of themselves that's actively living that life based on the decisions that they make, which all starts with their thoughts right Thoughts, feelings, actions, results, consequences, in that order. If they focus on just shifting their thoughts to align with that version of them, living that reality, everything can change. So it's this whole entire conversation embodied and it's, if we were to make it really simple, it's owning your freedom authentically, it's owning your life and it's owning your work. That's what being aligned with your purpose means to me, and it's having absolute control of your life to live the best life possible with the people that you love.
Speaker 2:And owning your life as I sit with that. That's just such a powerful thing. And taking responsibility, rather just taking life into completely into your grasp, knowing that you're in control of much more than you think and you possess the power to create anything and anything, all the possibilities that may exist for your life. It's beautiful, jamie, the way before we end with our rapid fire. How do we keep up with you and all the great work that you're doing and putting out in the world and helping people with becoming crystal clear on their vision?
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, we'll definitely check on my podcast. If you just search aligned with purpose, it'll pop up. Check that out, because you're listening to this podcast. Clearly you love podcasts, so let's do it and let's see. As they find me over on social media, jamie Coleman, so my last name is called KU-L-L-M-A-N. I actually have an aligned breakthrough consult where I would actually sit down with you face to face on Zoom, just the two of us, for 60 minutes, where we're going to get really clear on where you're at right now like what's your pain, what's your current reality, what are your struggles and then paint a picture of what this vision actually looks like. So we'll basically take this whole conversation and we'll do that for you. I will sit with you and do that and help you create that vision, and then we'll make an action plan that you can take to actually do the thing that you want to do. So I'd love to opt for that up, but just find me over on social media and we can line it up.
Speaker 2:And everything will be linked. And yeah, folks keep up with Jamie's podcast. It's a lot of amazing guests on there and Jamie dropped some great solos. One of my favorite things about you, jamie, is just your radiance and the energy you give off, and it's pleasant to be with you here in conversation, but then also to hear what you're putting out there for people in your solos. I love them. So folks check them out.
Speaker 2:Now, jamie, it's customary to end the pod with a rapid fire session and this is called One Gem, one Step, one Book. We're on an elevator and we're going up three floors and someone gets on each floor. They're only going up one floor and they're going to ask you one question, so the amount of time you have to answer is the amount of time it takes to go up one elevator floor, so not much time. So the first person gets on and they recognize you and they say they ask Jamie, what's one gem that you live your life by, whether it be a quote or a mantra that I can put in my back pocket to live my life by or pull on whenever I need some inspiration.
Speaker 1:I'm in the knowingness of what I'm creating. I am enough.
Speaker 2:Love that Next person gets on. Jamie, what's one step that I can take today to become more crystal clear on my vision for 2024 and beyond?
Speaker 1:Sit down and connect with. If you had no limitations in your life and you knew that whatever you could accomplish was possible, what exactly would you do?
Speaker 2:I would love to see people's journal entries. With that no limitations. Last person gets on Jamie. What's one book that I can read to sharpen my mindset?
Speaker 1:Ask and Disgiven.
Speaker 2:Ask and Disgiven. Haven't heard that one before Now. Jamie, it's been an absolute pleasure to have you on the show and really appreciate you sharing your story and your journey, because what that has done for listeners is show us that anything is possible for anyone. And when you become crystal clear on your vision and couple that with action, focus on your mindset and recognizing that our thoughts simply aren't real or our thoughts aren't our thoughts, we can all create a life of abundance and live on purpose and win today. Thanks so much for tuning in.
Speaker 1:And keep grabbing me.