#134 | The One Person You Should Never Meet In Life
Feb 05, 2024Season 4
Have you ever been haunted by the ghost of 'what could have been'? It's a question that echoes in our minds, especially when we consider the stark reality that within the tens of thousands of people we'll meet in our lives, there's one encounter we dread the most...
It's often ourselves that serve as the only limitation to accomplishing or becoming what we desire. Here, you'll learn a few ways to prevent that from happening and stay on the path towards becoming the person that you ultimately envision in life :)
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Have you ever been haunted by the ghost of 'what could have been'? It's a question that echoes in our minds, especially when we consider the stark reality that within the tens of thousands of people we'll meet in our lives, there's one encounter we dread the most...
It's often ourselves that serve as the only limitation to accomplishing or becoming what we desire. Here, you'll learn a few ways to prevent that from happening and stay on the path towards becoming the person that you ultimately envision in life :)
Thank you for tuning in! If you feel led, please subscribe & share the show to others who you believe would benefit from it. Keep in touch below!
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What's up everyone? There is a fascinating stat that I was curious about how many people does the average person meet in their lifetime? And originally my guess was definitely 10,000 at bare minimum, probably 20 to 30,000 and maybe 40,000 just for the average person. That, let's say, isn't a prominently known figure. 40,000 people seems like a lot, and it's double that. On average, each person will meet roughly 80,000 people throughout the course of their life, and another stat that's interesting just on that number. So on average, each of us will meet roughly 80,000 people, and that's a lot. Clearly, we won't remember most of them, but 80,000 people only represents less than 0.1 percent of the entire population on planet Earth. We'll go through our life and experience a lot of things, meet a lot of people, yet won't meet more than 0.1 percent of who is here, and it's typically that 0.1 percent of people that dictate our 100 percent in a lot of different areas. 0.1 percent of people in the world can dictate how we view the entire population, can dictate 100 percent of our thoughts, our feelings, our actions, our emotions.
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The point I'm making is that it takes one or a very small portion of anything to influence everything that we are, or a large majority of what we are, how we do, how we think, how we feel, how we act, and of that, there's one person that I never want any of you to meet. This is the one person that you don't want to meet of the 80,000 people that you might meet throughout your life, and that's the person that you could have become. I was going back and reading who, not how, by Dan Sullivan, which is one of my favorite books of all time, and I remember reading this a few years ago, and something stood out to me as I was reading that book and he talks about the definition of hell, hell being that on your last day on earth, the person that you became will meet the person that you could have become. Let that soak in On your last day on earth, the person that you became will meet the person that you could have become, and I can't think of anything worse than meeting that person, because if you meet that person, that means that you meet all of the capability that you had inside you, or rather, you see all of the capability that you had inside you.
Speaker 1:
I think it's troubling or scary when I talk to people that are in the later decades of their life and, by the way, with everything that's covered here or in any other podcasts, books, resources that you may tap into there's never a starting point that is too late. It's never too late to jump on the journey. The earlier that you focus on your mindset and the world of personal development, clearly the better and you're going to set yourself up for the later years, but it's never too late, even if you're in your 30s. I hear folks now around my age that feel like they've missed the boat. I'm just getting started, my friends. But I do become fearful for others when I hear folks that are in the later stages that say I wish this, if only that I wish that man, if I just or if I just did. In thinking about that, it scares me. I never want to be that or to say something like that later in my life. If I just dot dot dot, if I didn't dot dot dot, then I dot dot dot. Whatever the case may be. And the reason why I'm bringing up this episode is because I was just interviewing a coach that I've been working with for the past year, jamie Coleman. Her episode will air shortly.
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Jamie is a mindset coach and also helps people develop their online businesses. So once you see my course launching and things I've been talking about for a long time, the person that is behind some of that is Jamie, and in the conversation with Jamie we talked a lot about vision, creating a life vision, but not just creating it, but living it and then becoming it, and Jamie has got such a unique story. She now she is one of Rob Diles mindset coaches. She coaches in one of Rob Diles groups. Rob Dile, if you don't know him, is one of the most prominent names in the world of personal development now, comparable with Brandon Brashard and Ed Milette, has a plethora of amazing resources, so she works within Rob Diles team. Knows Rob Dile personally and she is working out of an RV in Sedona, arizona, with her husband and her kid, and they travel all over the US in their RV and make money online coaching clients and working with people, helping them become crystal clear on their vision so that they can live their greatest lives.
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And Jamie was someone that previously struggled with alcohol, wasn't very happy with life and she knew that a change needed to be made. And she started digging into some resources and became crystal clear on exactly what it was that she wanted. And so her reality today traveling in the RV, living in Sedona, having the beautiful mountain backdrop, coaching people online, working with some of the top entrepreneurs in the world through Rob Diles group that is something that she wrote down years ago and it's evolved. But years ago she thought about what is the exact life to the T that I want to create and live. And let's go take action, and that's what made me think of this episode that once you become crystal clear on your vision and take action towards it, then you become further and further away or you become less likely to meet that person that you could have become.
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Because if you meet the person that you could have become, you're gonna meet the person that took action on the things that you thought about or think about that you're just either too scared to do or not confident enough to do, or afraid of what other people are gonna think about you if you do that thing. When you operate from a vision that is so pristine and down to the detail what you're gonna do, where you're gonna do it, who you're gonna do it with, who are you gonna serve what's life gonna look like? When you get that clear on it and again you're consuming it every single day, you start to believe that that's what you're worthy of, that's what you're capable of and, ultimately, that's what you deserve. The second thing that I want you to do to ensure that you don't meet this person is find someone, at least one person, who helps you take action towards this vision.
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Going back to the who, not how book and the entire premise of who, not how, is in the title. Rather than asking how am I going to get this done? How can I make this grand vision a reality? Ask yourself who do you know, who do I know that may already have this vision, is living this vision, knows how I can take proactive steps towards it, knows that I want it, simply knows that you want it, because if someone knows about it, then you're more likely to actually do something about it. And when you find somebody that has already done it, guess what? Instead of going one steps one through ten, maybe you start at step number five and then you go from five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, always made easier or more feasible when you've got someone that is on the journey with you, or at least aware of it or has been on the journey. So that's another way that you can avoid meeting that person.
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And I believe that none of this is rocket science, none of it's very complicated. These are all things that we can do and it's backed by simple actions Writing down exactly what you want your life to look like. Finding somebody who is aware of it, has done it, knows how to do it, can help you do it and hold you accountable to it. And the last one as I was preparing for this podcast, I was looking through all of my notes and decided I'm not going to read through every little thing I've written down about my vision, as that's covered through a lot of different episodes, but I'm bringing up this one. I wrote this in October of 2022, and I didn't put any additional context behind it, at least in the note that I wrote. My best guess is this came from reading Ed Millett's book Power of One More because of one word that is referenced here Belief is the thermostat that regulates what we accomplish.
Speaker 1:
So now adding a third element in here going back to the top crystal clear on your vision, down to the T, every little detail. Just like Jamie had written down that she wants the RV, wants to live in Arizona, travel the country, coach online and so on, raise her son and be a homeschool parent for her son every little detail become crystal clear on that. And then you find somebody, get you a who. And then the last piece is audit your belief system and your thoughts. I think that's this one's powerful Belief is the thermostat that regulates what we accomplish. So much of what dictates our day to day and what we're gonna do tomorrow. What we believe we can do tomorrow, next month, next year, this month, this year, is what we put in our minds, the thoughts that we place in our minds, many of them which are not real thoughts, they're simply noise. So, with your vision, you must be crystal clear on it, you must find someone that knows about it and you must believe in it.
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And how do you get yourself to believe in the vision? Because it's simple, it's easy to say it and I'm sure someone may be thinking okay, that's really, really great advice there, ryan. Believe in it. Well, you do need to believe in it, but to get yourself to believe in anything, it starts by taking action on it. If you want to run a marathon, you've gotta believe you can run a marathon. If you've never ran a marathon before, once you start running your 5Ks regularly and increasing your distance by taking action and running regularly, then you're gonna believe oh, you know what you can do a marathon. And then, hey, when you run your first marathon or you start running marathons, then you put it in your sights to run an Ultra, and it's backed by belief. And belief is built by taking action. So don't meet the person that you could have become by not being clear on what you want, by not having one who in your corner and by not building a strong belief system.
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I have a note that will be released at some point in time that I've printed out, and it's my next step, which doesn't involve climbing up the corporate ladder all the way to the top, which I once believed I wanted to do, and in this note that will be sent at the right time, it talks about my.
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I'm talking about my reason for pursuing this venture full-time, and it's because this is my dream, this is my vision, and I couldn't imagine going through life, working my way up to the top of a corporate ladder and making lucrative sums of money, maybe not being as present as I would like to be for my family, and then meeting this person that had one of the top performing personal development podcasts in the world, had a scholarship fund that's given away millions to people students that are committed to ending generational curses, met the person that runs ultra-marathons and competes in the most grueling endurance events in the world, not just to challenge himself but to show other people.
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Here's what's possible. When you commit, when you take action, anything is possible in our lives and it is my worst nightmare that either I or you meet that person that you had inside of you or that you have inside of you and you never totally tapped into it. Get crystal clear on the vision. Find you a who take action every day. You're gonna believe it, you're gonna become it and you're never gonna meet that person that you could have become because you are that person. Thanks so much for tuning in and win today. We'll see you in the next one.